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Why relaxation is not self-indulgent and how it can be easily achieved

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Too often relaxation is seen as a luxury to indulge in when we have time. However, mental and physical relaxation can be the antidote for many of the negative effects of stress.
Learning relaxation techniques and using them frequently can be effective in taking charge of many common stresses and worries experienced in everyday life. The more stressed we are the less able we are to cope and think positively. This can lead to people getting stuck in a cycle of negative thinking which prevents them from being able to achieve the things they want to.

Hypnosis is an ideal way of benefiting from relaxation and encouraging a more positive attitude.
Hypnosis is best described as focused relaxation. The deep relaxation, allows a person to be able to suggest a more positive way of thinking which can have a beneficial effect on their behaviour.


While Hypnotherapy is often used to help people stop smoking or manage the anxiety associated with unwanted behaviours, it is particularly useful in helpin…

How Could Hypnotherapy Help Me?

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Often when a client comes to see me with phobias, nervous twitches, depression, anxiety, self-esteem issues, sexual problems, and the like, they already have some idea of what they THINK the therapy will entail. 
Most people who consult me think that I am somehow going to hypnotise them and tell them they no longer stutter, are no longer afraid of spiders, or are no longer anxious, and that dealing with the presenting symptoms is all it takes.
But…perhaps we should be asking the question: why do they have the problem in the first place?
Different Types of Hypnotherapy You may be surprised to learn there are lots of different types of Hypnotherapy. You wouldn’t be alone if you thought ‘it’ was all the same, when in fact there are a number of different types of therapies that use hypnosis. Of course, they all have similarities but the approaches may be different depending on the problem and the therapist.

When I first trained as a Hypnotherapist (nearly 20 years ago) I decide to specialis…

What's the difference between an Anxiety Attack and a Panic Attack?

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A survey by the Office of National Statistics reported that 39% of adults were experiencing high levels of anxiety since the COVID 19 Lockdown. This is particularly concerning when we consider that this is an increase from 19% from the end of 2019
Naturally, we would expect anxiety alongside the pressures of the environment. For some, it will be an understandable increase in worry and stress, while for others it may have triggered anxiety which can show itself in a number of symptoms, one of which is a panic attack.
Anxiety: a disproportionate fear response. An overestimation of potential threat coupled with an underestimation of a perceived ability to cope. 
Worry, Stress or Anxiety?Many people use the word anxiety interchangeably with panic, as well as worry and stress, which can lead to confusion. It is perfectly reasonable for a person to experience worry and stress, especially with the current circumstances. Worry and stress are a natural emotion that we all experience from time to …

Stress: Ways of Coping

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What is your ‘go-to’ way to cope with stress? Perhaps you are someone who focuses on the problem itself. You might be someone who finds solace in focusing on the practical solutions to the situation. On the other hand, you may be someone who pays greater attention to dealing with the emotions created by stressful events. You might feel that dealing with emotions helps you see things in a clearer perspective. Perhaps you use both strategies?The research…Research (Lazarus and Folkman, 1984) has distinguished between two types of coping that we use when faced with stressful situations.
We call then coping styles because each one has a particular focus on coping with stress. They are called problem-focused and emotion-focused coping. 

Problem-Focused: Tackling the particular things that has been causing the stress. Often thought of as the practical solution. It asks the question: “What can be done practically to cope with the situation?”

Emotion-Focused: Tackling the emotions that are bein…

Anxiety: The Mind's Fake News

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Don’t even bother trying…it’s bound to go wrong… If I go to that party, everyone is going to stare at me… There are people far better for that job… there is no point in applying… You know you are scared of that… avoid it… that’s the safest option…


These worries, fears, phobias, and panic attacks are your mind lying to you! It’s fake news… your mind is telling you there is something to be fearful, worried about, when it’s not true. Like all fake news, you can ignore it, but it will find a way of creeping back in, and each time it tries to be more and more convincing. It is still lies from your mind.

Think of anxiety as unconscious stress; stress that originates inside your mind. Your mind wants you to avoid anything similar to that unconscious stress so it interrupts your behaviour to prevent that happening.

And not just your behaviour…

Unconscious stress intrudes on your thoughts. Ask anyone who suffers with anxiety and they will tell you how much they think about it. It is rarely …

What is the most important question to ask about anxiety?

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Let’s imagine you are talking to someone who has been trying to manage anxiety… what would be the best question to ask?What symptoms have you been experiencing?  What seems to trigger the anxiety?    Is there anything that has helped previously?  We might even ask… how long have you been feeling anxious?  Obviously all are important questions…but what about… WHY have you been suffering with anxiety? When did you first remember feeling anxious? These might be the most illuminating questions because they are moving away from focusing on the direct symptoms of anxiety and beginning to consider what the CAUSE of the anxiety might be.

Anyone with anxiety is going to have thought about where it might have started. They will have spent many hours pondering over the possible causes, but even then they will admit that those causes somehow don’t seem right.

This leads to the hypothesis that there must be a cause that they haven’t worked out yet; perhaps an unconscious one which has been triggered…

From Mesmerism to Modern Day... A History of Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy

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‘There is an “it” which thinks in me and makes me doubt whether it is I that think.’ Claude Levi-Strauss
If you had to describe Hypnosis to someone, what would you say? It’s okay, the whole issue of an agreed definition has troubled academics and practitioners for many years. Often words like: relaxation, focused thinking, trance and sleep, are the first selected, and sometimes people talk about a hypnotic state.

I work with this definition:
A state of relaxation and heightened awareness, induced by suggestion
How’s that? 
It combines the idea that experiencing hypnosis is relaxing with the very common phenomenon that our senses become more sensitive. We become more aware of our surroundings while experiencing hypnosis and make sharper isolations of thought, even though to the observer we look perfectly relaxed. The definition also makes the point that the state is induced (either by themselves or another) by suggesting that it is going to happen.


Think about that… a situation whereby …